Relationships 101

I heard a thing on NPR about the stages of grief and I thought about how it is related to a relationship that ends. I have pasted it here for your viewing pleasure.

The stages Kubler-Ross identified are:

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

God's Ideal

“Higher than the highest human thought can reach is God’s ideal for His children” (Education, by Ellen White page 18). ...

The cost of my Praise

There is song that CeCe Winans sing called Alabaster Box. The Alabaster Box speaks to a story in the Bible when Mary (not the mother of Jesus) poured out a expensive box of insense onto Jesus feet. In the midst of that song it makes the statement that you do not know the cost of my praise. We do not know most times the cost of someone's praise. We do not know what they have gone thru to get to the point where they are now. One only knows the cost of your own praise. Father I know the cost of my praise ( a little at least I know there is a veil that I cannot see behind of the many times you have sent angels to protect me from the devil's attack) and my continual pray is whatever it takes to save me.

Sabbath Lesson for Me #10

Today I went to Berean after receiving a message from Tara that she was driving up and would be attending and being there was trully a refresher for me. Pastor Mendinghall preached and in the midst of his sermon he said something that I used to always say to myself about school, jobs and just life in general. He spoke of a time in his life when he was struggling to follow God's leading and how he finally got to the place where he told God whatever doors he open I will go thru. I used to really take that to heart. I have been able to travel to Ghana, Ethiopia and Tanzania because I had that attitude. However recently I realized I have not been doing that. My job had a opening that normally would not have interest me but something got my attention about it and I thought about applying but then decided not to. I am thankful for the reminder. Father encourage me to knock on doors and whatever door you open I will go thru and you will keep me on the other side of it in Christ name Amen!!!!

My 31st Birthday Picture

my new addition

Definition

Someone asked me today what is love and remembered a phrase that I learned in school.

True love is a high and holy principle, altogether different in character from that love which is awakened by impulse and which suddenly dies when severely tested.

found in Patriarchs and Prophets chapter 15, page 176

S.M.A.R.T Goals

This week I attended a two day workshop with my job titled Situational Leadership. It addressed making SMART goals and I thought about my life and one of the goals I would like to accomplish by the time I am 33 years old, and that is to be married. I have highlighted the SMART concept along with the steps I plant to take to achieve my goal.

S- Specific---------------I want to be married by 33 years old
M-Measureable---------The number of dates I have that lead to subsequent dates
A-Attainable-----------Men exist so YES
R-Realistic------------- yes 2 years ( 1 year dating, 6months planning
T-Timely--------------- read below

April 2007 - May 2008 3 or more social enagements a month
June 2008 - Dating prospect
June 2009 - Engaged
December 31, 2009 - Wedding date

Types of social events include

dinner parties ( get invited all the time but opt not to go)
Activities
visit new church once a month
referrals from friends and family

My Valentines Day 2006

This Valetines I did not expect anything however my mom and Luther came over and surprized me brought me red tulips. It was the best!!! Take a look at them

Movie Quote: The Last King of Scotland

I have the privilege to go to the movies this past week with one of my Hunger Fellows and we saw the Last King of Scotland. I did not know anything about it until Forrest Whitaker won the Golden Globe for his role as Ida Amin. It was a powerful story of friendship, the conflicts that can result and coming to terms with the decision we all make.

In the movie the following is stated to Ida Amin when he thinks he is about to die:

If you are afraid of dieing that means you have something worth living for....

Life Quote

It’s never too late to be what you might have been.”

Mary Anne Evans

A Day of Loss

Today I did not go to church instead I got a phone call from my mom telling me that a close friend of mines' son died early this morning. It came as a great shock especially in the way in which he died. I just pray for my friend endurance he has gone thru so much in the past few years. The Lord knows what we can handle.

A Tribute to my Future Husband

This week the Lord allowed every man that I was uncertain of if I was over to come into my life for which I consider a test to see if was ready to meet the man that shall be my husband. It was so amazing to me that the Lord knows it is time and just wanted me to be sure because He already knew. This was amazing to me because of the way the Lord did it. He had been preping me for it for weeks by allowing my first love who anybody that knows me well knows who it is contact me a few weeks ago. I had not heard from him in this way in YEARSSSSSSSSSSs. I just had to smile and say devil get thee behind me.

This week it happened again times four!!! It started with Monday with the most recent person in my life (DO)well actually let me go back actually it was Saturday night I got a phone call from someone and I was not phased by him calling and actually was busy at the time and did not even talk to him which is amazing I know to him and I kind of shocked myself because when he has called in the past I would drop whatever I was doing and whomever I was with. Sunday no one but then Monday and the person that showed up at my door step uninvited but definitely welcome because I needed closure and wanted to know for myself that he was more of man than his actions stated. He told me how he had stopped by on Sunday and I did not answer actually I just did not hear him I was home all that day. Tuesdays person (RB) actually passed by me and I thought nothing of his pursuit and actually laughed at it. Wednesday was my first love again (SJ) by this time I knew who Thursdays person (KD) was going to be and sure enough he called that morning before I even had time to remember that I was expecting him. God is just so awesome. I thought I might get a person on Friday but then I again I knew I was so over him that nothing but Christ coming off the thrown would allow me to look at him twice really even once.

I was thankful that I had the opportunity to encounter all these men. It allowed me to see how God has called me and is preparing me for somebody much better than all these guys. I know my first love and the most recent man in my life each exemplified true character traits that will be evident and dominant in my future husband however he will be better and trully God's gift to me. Ellen White has a quote that states: Higher than the highest human thought is God's ideal for His children. The Lord has someone amazing that he is preparing for me and I wait in expection for him to show up because I know he is coming really soon. And as I wait for the Lord to bring us together I refuse to allow men of my past whom I know the Lord has not called to distract me in my preparation. I know he is going to be better than anything I can think. I am so thankful that God thinks of ME. of me of me. WOWOWOWOWOWOWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

January 1, 2007

It is January 1, 2007. I can only say I look forward to seeing where I am a year from today. I pray I am at a new job with a great organization/company doing great work with wonderful people. I also hope that I am more involved with my church.

Quotable Quote

I am at work and came across a quote that I had written down on one of my many notebook that I must have heard on my ipod or someone stated to me and thought it worthy to post.

We are not called to be popular but to be faithful.

Love Lesson #8

I hung out with two of my assistant today at the park. We had great weather today. We talked about our different relationships and I made a statement that has me thinking now.

How do you love someone enough?

Here is a picture of them at the park.

American Public Media

I am trully enjoying my new ipod. Not for music as most but for all the podcast I get to download.

I have American Public Media as one of my podcast. I was listening to it yesterday it present excerpts of a conference titled Vietnam and the Presidecy held at the John F Kennedy Library last. One of the most profound things that was said and applys to the current situation we ar ein in Iraq.

Said by Jack Valenti second assistant to President LB Johnson.

He stated three reason why we did not win the war in Vietnam (in hindsight)

1. Cannot win when public support declines. People grow tired of confusion and whose(war) end is nowhere in sight
2. Cannot win a war against an insurgency that springs form the population
3. To fight an enemy you have got to know the ancestral rythms, customs and traditionS
4. and when 40% of what the pentagon estimate is not trUE

I also must add that you cannot TRULLY win a war no matter how many troops you send if the people you are fighting for has a cause related to a deep religious belief. Peoples belief in their God/god will give them the endurance to do anything and even to die. The cause is greater than the situation.

Sabbath Health Lesson for Me

Today was health ministry day at West End and the speaker was Curtis Eakins. He made the following highlights that I will try to implement in my diet. If you want to hear the sermon in total feel free to click on the following link.

http://churchpond.com/cp05/ptv_westend_rebroadcast.htm


Journal of the American Dietic Association


certain fats clog arteries more than any other

3 top saturated fats that clog arteries ounce for ounce pound for pound
saturated fats once eaten coverts into cholesterol

1. cheese (usage gone up 145% since 1970) also have 200 300 mg of sodium
2. ground beeg (it goes up and down, ecoli goes down, akins diet goes up)
3. whole milk (has gone down people are buying 2%, skim etc.)

Each food is assigned a potential renal(kidney) acid load (PRAL) the lower the number the better the food is for your kidneys the higher the number the worse it is for your kidneys

1. fruits and vegetables have a negative number - great for kidney
2. whole grain have a plus one or plus two
3. pork, fish, lamb, beeg have a plus 7 -8 begin to stress kidney
4. cheese 18
5. egg yoke 23
6. mozarella 28
6. parmesam cheese 34

Friday Night Dinner

This week we had dinner at my house and I cooked Butternut Squash with Cumin Couscous. It turned out pretty good. I have a thing about the presentation of food. So here you gooooooooooooooo.

The Sabbath For Me

Well today I went to sabbath school and it was great. I recently changed sabbath school classes and then I went to a close friends grandmothers funeral. I realized that I had never gone to a funeral in my adult life. It was a interesting experience for me. I got thru it and I was happy to be available to a dear friend. Who is my best friend in Atlanta.